Beyond New Year’s Resolutions- How Can We Create Sustainable Healthy Habits from a Place of Self Love?

Joyful Zion

I’ve always felt an inner conflict in making “new years resolutions.” There’s a part of me that wants real change – excited for possibilities and ready to embark on a new journey! And a piece of me that’s resistant to setting myself up for the inner critic to come online and judge ever-so-harshly how I’m failing at actualizing what I really want. But this year, after several conversations around the topic of creating New Year’s resolutions (or intentions), I’ve come to a new understanding.

Here are my tips to create a new relationship with resolutions - or any attempt to make a change: 

1.       Start with acceptance.

So often I want to make a change from a place of hating what is. That might look like my habit of procrastination, carrying extra weight than I’d like or not exercising as often as feels good. If I’m in a space a HATING what’s happening, I’m resisting the reality of what actually IS. Ever hear the saying “what you resist persists”? I find this to be true, especially in the realm of health. When we are able to make a change from a space of love for ourselves, (aka it’s okay that I have this extra ten pounds, I have been focusing on other things in life), instead of hating that we look a certain way, change is much more likely to stick. We don’t need to start with the assumption that we’re a bad person or failure for being in the place that we’re starting.

2.       Allow honest self-assessment.

There are so many ripe opportunities to get to know ourselves more deeply when setting the intention to make a change. Many ways that we might surprise ourselves with  With any habit change, we are going to need to let go of the previous habit. If we want to exercise more, perhaps we will be exchanging that time for the habit of watching TV in the evening or extra sleep in the morning. Sometimes we are ready to let go of the old habit, and sometimes we really are not. And there’s no judgment in the readiness, but an honest answer to the question of “am I ready to let go?” puts us in a space ready for changes.

3.       Ask yourself “What makes me come alive?”

When setting ourselves up for a life of healthy habits, one of the most important questions we can continually ask is “what makes me come alive?” What/where/when do I feel excited for life? What brings me a sense of joy, fulfillment and purpose? Exercise is a great place to look at this question. If we tell ourselves that we must run an hour each day, but we hate running, we are setting ourselves up for a constant inner battle. Why not look at what type of exercise feels good? Maybe dancing (or Zumba) lights up our hearts as well as gives a great workout! Maybe climbing or biking or hiking energizes us on a deep level beyond the physical. Perhaps you’re an individual that thrives in social settings and loves group sports. Maybe there is a group or buddy that can share your passion! Find what feels good to you.

4.       Create support and accountability.

Even when we are engaging in habits that help us to feel good, it can be extremely helpful to create a system of accountability. Whether that looks like finding a buddy, an online group, an in-person support group, or hiring a professional for support; create some regular check-in’s to hold yourself accountable to your intention. We all have our own inner saboteur, and it can be extremely powerful to acknowledge this piece of ourselves and strive to move beyond.  And when we witness our inner saboteur come online, we can even speak to this and recognize it for what it is. Not that it’s a bad or wrong piece, but that it exists and we don’t have to believe the lies that it feeds us. We are deserving of the life we desire to create, no matter what this saboteur voice tells us. And a group, buddy or professional can be a wonderful way to remind ourselves that we are more powerful than our saboteur. If you'd like to learn more about what I can offer in working together, please feel free to email

Strategies for Dealing with Sugar Cravings

One of the most important things to remember is that when our bodies are having cravings, there is always a wise message in that craving (and no, it doesn’t necessarily mean to eat that chocolate!). Read below for some clues to what your body might be saying to you through these cravings.

1. Problem: Irregular or missed meals or under-eating.

Skipping meals or eating on an unpredictable schedule catapults your body into a state of starvation, depriving your brain and body of fuel. This sets you up to crave starchy or sugary foods for energy.

Solution: eat at regular intervals throughout the day.

Plan to eat a nourishing meal or mini-meal every 4 to 5 hours until 7 or 8 pm. Most people find this stabilizes their energy and prevents impulse and binge-eating. Eating before you run out of energy can prevent sugar cravings.

2.  Problem: Lack of sufficient protein and fat. 

If your diet is carbohydrate heavy, particularly if you rely on refined carbohydrates, you may experience cravings for sweet foods. Your body requires a balance of nutrients. Protein and fat slow the release of carbohydrates into your blood stream, stabilizing your energy. Protein-rich foods also pack important nutrients and healthy fats and oils improve nutrient absorption, boost immunity, and increase satiety at meals. 

Solution: Eat mixed meals.

Meals containing a mix of complex carbohydrates, protein, and fat work best to stabilize energy and avert sugar cravings. Here’s why: Carbohydrates digest quickly, providing fuel immediately after the meal. As the supply of carbohydrate drops off, protein becomes available. When that drops off, fat provides the long term energy. Including a small portion of lean protein, such as fish, skinless poultry, lean, wild or grass-fed meat, or one or two eggs, and some friendly fat (nuts, seeds, olive, coconut or flax oil, butter, or avocado) at each meal (or at least twice a day) will retard the return of hunger and can help stave off sweets cravings.

3. Problem: Excessive salt intake. 

Restaurants, bars, fast food eateries, and processed food companies liberally season with salt to stimulate your palate, pique your interest in processed foods, and motivate you to eat more. Chips, crackers, cheese, cured meats, commercial dips, condiments, and canned soups can make your salt intake and desire for sweets soar. Surprisingly many commercial cookies, cakes, pies, pastries, frozen desserts, and candies also host a hefty dose of salt.

Solution: Slash your salt intake in half.

Halving your salt intake may help normalize your appetite, making it easier to tell when you’re hungry and when you’ve had enough of any particular food. Read labels, even in natural food stores and make lower-sodium selections. Add half as much salt to recipes. Replace high-sodium supermarket broth with lower sodium broth from a natural food store; better yet, make salt-free chicken and vegetables stocks and broths at home.  At the table, replace the salt shaker with lemon-pepper, or sea vegetable sprinkles. Try dulse, nori. Keep sprinkles, sold with and without spices in shaker bottles. Also try gomashio (sesame-salt), an Asian condiment made from toasted sesame seeds ground with unrefined sea salt in a 16:1 or 24:1 ratio. Look for these in natural food stores or consult a macrobiotic cookbook for recipes.

4. Problem: Consumption of refined carbohydrates or habitual use of sugar.

Refined foods don’t satisfy your body because they lack the nutrients and filling fiber found in whole foods. It’s easy to over consume cookies and confections, but who binges on bananas, baked sweet potatoes, or roasted onions? 

Solution: Replace highly refined foods with nourishing & sweet whole foods

Incorporate at least one sweet vegetable––long-cooked, caramelized onions, carrots, parsnips, beets, long cooked sweet potatoes, winter squashes––or cooked, or dried fruit into each meal and snack. Satisfy your sweet-tooth at meal-time and you won’t have to hunt for dessert after or between meals.

5. Problem: Trying to soothe emotional pains with sweets. 

No amount of dessert will satisfy your emotional needs or take away your troubles. Reaching for cookies, cakes, pies, pastries, ice cream, candies and other high-sugar foods when you feel fearful, angry, lonely, bored, depressed or stressed will usually give you more grief: bodily aches, pains, indigestion, excess body fat, and health problems that can make you feel even worse..

SolutionFind healthy ways to satisfy your needs.

Explore non-food ways to release pent up energy and create balance in your life. Unwind with a yoga audio or video, a walk, a nap, a sauna, a swim, or a relaxation tape. Treat yourself to an herbal bath, therapeutic massage, or weekly session with a life coach. Oust anger by running, riding your bicycle, taking a martial arts or other vigorous exercise class. Dance the blues away. Take up thai chi, chi gong, collage making, painting, journaling, drawing, or meditating.

6.  Problem: Physical depletion. 

Adrenal exhaustion can contribute to cravings for stimulants, such as salt, sugar, alcohol, coffee, or drugs. Does the food or drink your crave contain caffeine? Does it drug you, numb you, take you away from the truth, or keep you going when you’d otherwise collapse from exhaustion?

SolutionDiscover what your body really needs.

Sometimes you need physical movement! Daily aerobic exercise will increase circulation and strengthen will power. Try to get 20-30 minutes of pleasurable exercise at least 5x/week.  Do you need more relaxation or rest? You may benefit from extra sleep, a day or weekend off, gentle exercise, meditation, relaxation tapes, massage, psychotherapy, or acupuncture and herbs. Search for the root cause then commit to your own healing.

 7. Problem: Ritual triggers

There are certain times, places and celebrations that we’re used to celebrating with cake, ice cream or cookies. Birthdays, holidays and treats at work can act as powerful “triggers” for us to start craving sweets because we know they will be served there.

Solution: Prepare ahead of time

Bring some sweet food with you and enlist your friends/family members for support! You can even offer to bring your own food to share with others. Start a new tradition of nourishing yourself and your loved ones with healthy foods.